Surgeons are not miracle workers

I was reading up on Dr Meronk's site http://www.drmeronk.com on lower eyelid hollows and also some of the posts on Make Me Heal and reaffirmed what I already knew, but had gone to the back of my mind temporarily, was that surgeons are not miracle workers and can only do what they do.

Jane said something to this effect when I saw her on Friday to have my stitches out. I think she was trying to distract me from the pain of the stitches being removed from my right eye by talking (though I can't be sure) and at one point I was starting to tell her that Carol (SarahAnn from MMH) was possibly waiting to see the outcome of my lower eyelid retraction with Jane before she considered making an appt with her; though before I could finish the sentence and had just said "waiting to see the outcome of the lower eyelid retraction" ... when Jane interrupted and said that that put a lot of pressure on her and something along the lines that she couldn't promise to fix what the other surgeon did and could only do what she does. I wasn't quite sure what to make of what she said and it did bother me a little as she didn't expand on it nor invite further conversation on it and it kinda ended there. Till now, that is, and reading Dr Meronk's site, about the difficulties of lower eyelid retraction and lower eyelid hollows and seeing some before and after pictures.

I guess I just expect Jane Olver, as the qualified surgeon / opthamalogist / oculoplastic surgeon, to do all the talking and reassuring and advising me as I know nothing about all this; unless I read up on it; and she hasn't been saying very much - I think Carol calls it "bedside manner"(?).

Also what bothered me about my right lower eyelid hollow was that Jane has a keen and sharp eye and yet she didn't mention it at all on Friday and I'm sure I mentioned it in my original email to her. I don't mind the fact that she did what she did and it didn't take or whatever - it just would have been nice to have talked about it and had it all validated and/or perhaps reassured that things could change and settle down and/or acknowledged that there was a right eye hollow there. I guess that's perhaps what I'm angry at ... I'm still trying to figure it out inside. Or maybe as Jane is *absent minded* like an absent minded professor, she genuinely forgot about it .... possibly that and as I'm emotionally charged about it, I feel upset about it all as I feel invalidated.

Once more, I am happy with the outcome of this surgery in that it is about 80-90% successful and I am happy with my upper fat transfer so far (though not sure about the ptosis repair / upper eyelash repair yet as it's early days) and it's still early days to figure out about my lower eyelid skin removal - ie did Jane remove too much skin from my right lower for it to look hollow(?) .... lots of questions ... I must write them down and ask her them when I see her in 6 weeks time.

A reminder again that Surgeons are not miracle workers and can only do what they do and sometimes they don't get it right the first time. Jane mentioned this at my very first consult. I cringe at the thought of how much all this surgery has cost me so far including consultation costs ... it definitely goes into 6 figures already and that's in pounds sterling. I'm just a humble single secretary and not some rich woman who lives in the West End with a wealthy husband.